Many people in America are looking for a "do over" in their lives. They don't like how their life has turned out so far, and hope that by making drastic changes, the results will be better. They look at their spouse and think they could "catch" a better version; one younger, more sexy, vibrant, and less argumentative.
They look at their home and believe moving into a newer model, a new city, or even a new state will improve their circumstances. They believe they are not the cause of their unhappiness, and believe a change of spouse or scenery will make them happy.
Unfortunately, the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence, and the appearance of a better life is often smoke and mirrors with no substance. There is a saying, "Where ever you go, you'll be there too" meaning, if you're unhappy here, you'll be unhappy there. William Shakespeare said, "All the world is a stage," but I hate to break it to you, "Life is not a play." There is no "Act 1" with other acts to follow. It has a beginning (birth) and an end (death). What you do with the middle of it depends on you, your choices, and your mistakes. When we look BACK at our life, often we see the mistakes that leave us with regret. By redesigning our future, we hope to minimize mistakes, and therefore minimize the regrets. But, if we look back at our mistakes not as something to forget about or lament, but rather see them as opportunities where we've grown and matured, we can see through God's eyes the blessings that resulted from the pain,
"Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret,
but worldly sorrow brings death."
2 Corinthians 7:10
When we can see our mistakes as opportunity to learn, we can be thankful for the challenges. From now on, when you make a mistake, take a look at the lesson and learn from it, and thank God for the opportunity to grow. In this new way of thinking, you'll have more to be thankful for, and less to regret.
Only consequences with a differnet set of problems arise.