I grew up in the era where personal responsibility was everything. Post WWII parents were raising their children to have a "stiff upper lip," and teaching us that there is no progress made without suffering as they chimed, "No pain, no gain" and I learned from teachers to "fake it 'til you make it."
Today, the common philosophical opinion has gone the opposite direction where "other responsibility" rues the day. Every conflict, challenge, or negative report card is someone else's fault. Couples break up because the other person did not make them happy. Children are left to be raised by grandparents or the foster care system because parents didn't think before they had unprotected sex and it's the child's fault they were born (or aborted). No one wants to inconvenienced or held to a higher standard than they want to live. And they certainly don't want to be held accountable for the choices they make. We are in a Give Me mode instead of a Give to Others state of mind. People are holding back their finances, their time, and their love. Yet, they are demanding they receive more wages, vacations, and amazingly, more love. Political pendants blame the president, while activists blame the police, the courts, and even the opposite sex for their problems. Where does it end?
The solution is to do the opposite of what you think you should do: Take back responsibility. When you give others control over you, you give away your power. When you follow the crowd, they determine where you'll end up. When you are lazy you force your parents or employers to create consequences in their effort to get you to do the right thing. When you listen to others opinions as fact without checking for validity, you blindly follow in their illogical thinking and stop thinking for yourself. If blaming others is your default setting for who is responsible, you'll always be miserable, feel out of control (because you are), and will be alone. No one wants to be with someone who is always blaming them for their problems.
Try this: Stand up straight, take a deep breath, and say, "Today, I take back my life!" Be responsible, move forward, stop focusing on how others are "making" you feel, and focus on the things you want. Then go get them!