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I was wondering when someone was going to take their happiness into their own hands and seek shelter in a different way. My nephew posted this picture about a neighbor of his who literally took to the rooftop of his home to find peace and quiet. Now that takes "out of the box" thinking to "new heights."

Innovation is an American trademark. We are so capable to create the "new and improved" to compensate for the old, stale, and broken things of life.

Recently, I was showing a young girl what courage and fear looked like. I lay on the ground (seriously) and whined, kicked, and complained that I had fallen down. In comparison, I jumped up, stood in a boxing stance, and showed her what courage (Spiderman style) would look like.

Today the challenges are very simple, work from home, minimize your exposure to anyone who might be sick, and wait and see.

When I was forced to retire from law enforcement due to an on-the-job injury, I found myself being offered anti-depressants because I was literally laying on the floor crying about how was I, as a single parent, going to continue to live on 1/2 my income. One day a close friend told me I was being an idiot, "For once in your life you have time and money. Enjoy your time with your daughter because when you go back to work, you'll be complaining again that you have no time with her." That reality smacked me so hard that I refused to take the drugs, told the therapists I was taking control of my life, and I refused to be a victim of my circumstances anymore.

That was the best advice I have ever heard and it's the same advice I give to all my clients. Stop being a victim and take control of your life. Stop whining, complaining, and quarreling with your partners, your spouse, your friends, neighbors, and your children.

When you are faced with a challenge, you can either lay on the floor fearfully whining and complaining or you can stand firm, face the challenge, and courageously press through to a better outcome on the other side of fear.

"Better to live on a corner of the roof

than share a house with a quarrelsome wife."

Proverbs 21:9

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