I love when I see the tide of change come in. That moment when the teacher becomes student and I begin to be schooled by my clients. That's the moment when I know they will be fine. I love to hear the passion that bubbles up in session where my clients get up and pace in my office. They passionately formulate in their minds the pathways they are creating and begin to speak their truth. Their words, their actions, and their energy has dramatically changed from one extreme to the other, and they are internally motivated to live the life they desire, not the one that was handed them. The process of change has begun, and they are now picking up steam and driving it home.
Once such moment happened recently.
Some time ago, I met Reggie. He came to me heart-broken and suicidal. A series of events left him questioning his value as a man, husband, and father. When he spoke, he was defeated, deflated, and without hope. Change was not easy for him, but he remained willing to learn. Week after week, the evidence of his perceptions were reinforced and further devalued his self-image. Ongoing struggles to change others in his life continued to barricade him from real change. Then something happened that changed everything. He quit trying to change his environment and started to change himself. Through a series of small, focused, baby-steps to change, Reggie began t