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Patterns of Abuse


Why are certain people attempting to create division in the world? People are being shamed into isolation from those who love them and want what is best for them. Walter Scott is known for saying, "Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive" and these webs are being woven all over the place.


I have witnessed patterns of relationship abuse situations for many, many years and the patterns don't change. The first thing the abuser wants to do is isolate the other person from family and friends who might contradict the narrative they are trying to spin. Lies, false accusations, and the twisting of the truth are designed to create fear, uncertainty, and confusion. They will tell you that no one loves you as much as they do, no one cares about your livelihood as much as they do, and no one thinks about you as often as they do. All this flattery feels nice and they know just want you want to hear so they manipulate you with your own wants and desires. Others get tired of being falsely accused and they can see the manipulation, but because they are not the ones being flattered, the abuses says they are jealous. And when everyone but the abuser is left, there is such a fear of being alone, the victim will give the abuser total control over their life. The first physical act of domestic violence slowly begins to sleep in. First it is criticism, name-calling, profanity, and maybe even a push. Then as time goes on the push becomes a punch and the name-calling becomes your reality. They will control the money and your ability to earn a living as they desire your dependence. You will have no money and you must turn to your abuser to provide your every need. Once you have no money, have nowhere to go, and have rejected everyone who cared about you, the abuser knows they can control your every move. They will watch everything you do, they will monitor your activities on social media or they will just shut you out completely. They will put GPS tracking on your phones, monitor your emails, and accuse you of anything slightly resembling seeking help. They will identify you as someone who is unstable and they will take over your life, your bank accounts, and destroy you. Your children also will become dependent on the abuser as they grow up learning the abuser has power over their lives as well. This is when generational patterns of abuse exist and they are very difficult to change. If you don’t believe it look at what’s happening in America. The correlation is unnerving to say the least.


"We contend that for a nation to try to tax itself into prosperity

is like a man standing in a bucket and trying to lift himself up by the handle."

Winston Churchill



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