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Toss Across


Remember Mattel's game called, "Toss Across" where you threw bean bags onto a board and scored by winning in Tic-Tac-Toe? Well, when I saw this photo it made me think of the way some parents can "toss" their children in game of life.

They toss them criticism.

They toss them unrealistic expectations that they can never meet.

Then they toss them guilt they didn't earn and shame them for failing.

They even toss them across the room.

Carelessly, parents repeat abuses that were committed against them as children, but now they justify as adults. They have forgotten what it felt like to be criticized, shamed, and blamed for things beyond their control. Parents who are frustrated in their life circumstances, living in poverty, partner-abuse, and who feel their own guilt and shame can't see the impact their behaviors are having on their children. They have a desire that their children turn out better than they did, but without learning a new set of parents skills they are only passing on the childhood pain they suffered themselves. Change only happens when we seek to learn new ways to look at life (insight), and by learning new parenting skills (knowledge), and then by applying what we have learned (wisdom).

"Knowledge is spread by people who are wise, not by fools."

Proverbs 15:7

Abuse is never a good way to teach a child a lesson unless you want that lesson to be that they are unsafe, unloved, and unprotected by the person who is supposed to give them safety, love, and protection.

Day 35:Wisdom

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