A good therapist can help you understand you are trapped in a box and will give you tools you can use to help you understand your place within it. A great therapist will help you get out of the box.
I'm an out of the box therapist. No, I'm not bragging on myself, but I do believe there are people who can see the possibilities within people that others can't see. They may not have the gift of vision because they have not experienced life to the degree of pain and suffering their clients have. In other words, they've never been in the box and don't know the way out of it.
A young man recently shared his desire to find love. Valentine's Day can be difficult for those who haven't found a partner to celebrate love with. He wrote a poem, and it was touching how he revealed his desire to have that deep connection with another. He wrote, "If I could dream, I'd dream a dream for you."
It's heartbreaking to see such an amazing person long for love and feel they can't "find" it. All around the world people are looking for love and connection and are having a very difficult time finding it. People were created for connection and the pandemic took so much connection away. The internet also has stolen connection and redefined what connection is. A friend on social media is much different from a friend in real life. They may think this friend is an awesome person, but in reality, it may be an artificial BOT that has been set up to tell you what you want to hear. After all, isn't that what everyone wants in a relationship? Complete acceptance, compliance, and agreement and if you don't agree with me and go along with what I want, don't I have the right to terminate you? This is a big box that has trapped humanity in a world that is not based in reality but fantasy, and fantasy is limited.
If you want to find love, get off the internet. Get out in real life and breath in the possibilities. Start engaging with real people, not artificial images on a computer. Laugh, engage, even disagree, and see what it feels like to have push back against some of your in-box thinking. You might learn something, grow from it, and be a better person at the end of the day. Do this a little every day until you find your grove and can move in and out of relationships without feeling boxed-in. The world is wonderful when you have a changed perspective, and you'll love the freedom it brings.
8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.