Porn and male masturbation is ruining the sex lives of men and women around the world. The results are catastrophic and no one is talking about it.
For decades, the world has been moving away from abstaining from sex before marriage and has raced toward lust being the main focus of sex. Porn is in nearly every household and children are learning self-pleasure is better than actually being in a relationship. Human connection is discouraged and we so easily forfeit it choosing to isolate instead. People are not happier, but they find contentment alone where they don't have to fear rejection. Sex between partners is being replaced by masturbation and tomorrows unborn children are being spilled onto the floor, literally. The birth rate in America has been dropping and the World Economic Forum says the primary reasons for the decline in population is less people want to get married and have children, COVID-19, migration, and urbanization and life expectancy. In other words, they are saying where you life, how you live, how long you live, and where you work is affecting the number of children being born around the world.
I take a different perspective. People have been having sex and making babies no matter where they lived or where they worked for all of time. During the pandemic, when people were forced home to spend time with their partners, there actually was a small increase of births. They even came up with a name for children conceived during the pandemic, Covid Babies.
Before the Internet came into play and pornography became readily available, magazines, movie theaters, and seedy back alleys were preferred places where men would find selfish pleasure. Strangers who exchanged sex for money stood on street corners in "red light" districts. Much of this behavior was considered shameful to society and so it took place covertly. Marriage and a commitment to one sexual partner was the norm not that long ago. Saving yourself sexually for that special person you intended to marry was the goal of every boy and girl. Girls envisioned their wedding day celebration, the white dress, and the boys envisioned their wedding night would be one of spectacular beauty. Suddenly, someone said that women should have the same rights as men when it came to sex, and the sexual revolution was born. Consequently, marriage has been dying ever since. Today, men are spending more time alone with their penis than with the woman they married resulting in an inability to perform sexually. The cause for the decline in birth rates seems simple to me: No sex, no children.
While listening to a marriage seminar called Laugh your way to a better marriage presented by pastor Mark Gungor, I heard him refer to Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome (TMS). It also has other names like Death Grip Syndrome, where the man's sensitivity in his penis tends to decrease with age. Another name is Post Dramatic Stress Syndrome, which experts say can last a lifetime if not treated appropriately. Hard-flaccid syndrome is generally due to trauma to the penis. This can occur with excessive or rough masturbation. Whatever you want to call it, the results are clear, putting it bluntly, excessive masturbation leads to dead meat.
I have been warning men who are addicted to porn and masturbating regularity that they will soon be unable to perform and their penis will go flaccid. Young men will look at me and say they doubt it will happen. I ask them why they think erectile dysfunction is on the rise and medications and surgeries have become so popular? They think it's a natural transition with age. If this was the reason, why are men in their 20's and 30's, who normally would be in their prime, having trouble getting an erection? They have no answer.
The solution
Many psychologists, Psychiatrists, therapists, life coaches, teachers, mentors, friends, and family members would advise you to fantasize more, try out new toys, take drugs (illegal and prescription), and would even encourage more masturbation. The solution is not more masturbation but to stop while you can. You don't know how much juice is left in the tank.
Stop blaming your wives when you know your desire is not for them. It is not your wife's fault that you have been masturbating and watching porn since you were a pre-teen. It's not your fault you were led astray by the lies you were told. Wake up before it's too late for your marriage, your children (born and unborn), and your future. If you think your love life sucks, look to yourself for the cause of your discontent. Statistics show that married men live longer, happier lives. If you don't put any effort into loving your wife and instead run to love yourself you will end up a very unhappy and lonely man.
"Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them"
Colossians 3:19.
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